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Dear Deb,
                 I listen to you everytime you are on Ted & Amy’s show. I am not able to call because I am @ work on a machine that I am unable to leave. I heard you when you were last on and you said you liked questions. So I ahve one.  My mother-in-law passsed away last Sept and I  have my bad days and good days mostly bad. What I was wondering was is her spirit ever around me? I  am the 2nd daughter-in-law and I miss her terribly so much so that we have not put up a christmas tree since her passing it’s just too difficult. I just need to know is she ever near and if so when is her most “active” time I just want to tell her how very much we all miss her although I am sure she knows.   Thank You in advance
                                                                       Sincerely,
                                                                         Nancy

Hi Nancy, thanks for writing.

Our loved ones are always around! Just like when they’re living, they want to know what’s going on with you, what are you doing for fun, etc. They want to participate and hang out, and certainly still have opinions about things! They constantly try to let us know they are there, but usually it’s so subtle that we just brush it off. So if you see your lights flicker, or hear noises, or even feel someone pull your hair, that’s probably a loved one trying to get your attention.

For example, where I used to work I would constantly feel as if someone had walked by me in my cubicle and hit the back of my chair. I’d turn around but there wouldn’t be anyone near me! I finally realized it was probably my mother, and learned to just say “hi Mom” in my head to her whenever that happened!

So yes, you can rest assured that your mother-in-law is fine, she’s constantly visiting you and the family, and the last thing she wants is for you to not enjoy Christmas or other family gatherings. Wouldn’t she hate it to think she’d ruined everything for you and everyone else? So, dry your eyes, and instead, think of the good times and the fun you all had together, and vow to make more memories from now on that the living can share. You can be sure she’ll be right there in the midst of the fun along with you!

Thanks for writing, and Happy New Year!

Debbie

I’m glad you’re feeling hopeful, because the most important component of healing is your thoughts!

I can’t remember if we spoke about Abraham, which is a channeled entity. You can go their website at Abraham-Hicks.com, and they have a free tape you can receive, etc.

Essentially it’s the best teaching and training that I’ve found on how to use your thoughts to gain the desired results in your life - in other words, to manifest what you truly want, rather than what some other part of you is manifesting. (We do it all, the good and the bad!) So - you learn to state your intentions, and many other little tricks, to create what you want. But what’s so important is their contention that if you can BE of the vibration of the thing that you desire, you must receive it! So if you as “not hopeful” are a vibration of say, a 3, and being well is a vibration of 10, well, it’s not a match! So you set your intention and work on your thoughts to bring yourself to the vibration of being a 10, so you can bring to yourself, through the Law of Attraction, the healing that’s a 10 vibration.

So - start now to “set your intention” that you’ll be healed in the Spring or sooner! I just start saying phrases to myself, out loud if I’m alone, like “I intend to be happy, I intend to be healthy, I intend to have fun” etc etc. So you start intending “I intend to be healed, I intend to feel better, I intend for my mind to make me well, I intend to allow my body to regain perfect health” etc. Naturally, the positive phrases make a difference, but what’s more important is the vibration that you attain by thinking such positive thoughts! You “raise your vibration” with positive thoughts, music, dancing, laughter, contentment, passion - all the positive emotions. If you know of a place that makes you feel better, imagine yourself there. If a person does it for you, pretend you’re with them if you can’t be for real.

Vibration is everything - in other words, you could intend NEGATIVE thoughts and attain the perfect vibration to match a negative thing! Actually, we humans do that all the time! It takes effort, and vigilance, because our natural inclination is to do the same old thing all the time, and that’s generally pretty negative! We’re doubtful, fearful, skeptical, cynical, logical, passive, apathetic, angry - well, you get the idea!

Anyway, I don’t mean to lecture, but frankly if your thoughts DON’T become positive and raise your vibration, then no healing will be able to take place. So the thoughts are the key which you must master!

You can get books by Esther Hicks on Amazon, used, for cheaper than new, and I highly recommend anything by her or them - the lecture tapes are great, too.